When love is tainted by selfishness, it cannot illumine at all. Self is lovelessness; Love is selflessness. Love gives and forgives. Self gets and forgets.  Love can never entertain the idea of revenge, for it sees all others as Oneself. When the tongue is hurt by the teeth, do you seek vengeance against the teeth? No, they both belong to you and are integral parts of your body. So too, when some other person insults you or inflicts pain, allow wisdom to have mastery over you. Discover the truth and do not rush to conclusions, always keeping love as your guide. This is a difficult task, but not beyond your capacity.  Embark on this task with ardor and faith, you will attain sweet victory.

-Divine Discourse, Feb 16, 1977.

Difficult tasks provide challenges  and brings forth the best and highest in you. - Baba